Two weekends ago, I traveled up to Manhattan to enjoy a day of shopping with some of my oldest and dearest friends. The occasion was organized by one husband, who thought the trip (coupled with some nice shopping money) would make for a great birthday gift for his wife (and by default, her friends).
He could not have been more correct.
Though our shopping was not particularly memorable (the most dangerous stores were closed on account of a certain papal visit), everything else about the time we spent together was. We talked endlessly about both the present and past. We ate too much, imbibed a little, and parted ways feeling like we had been given some kind of revitalization. Despite my blistered feet (I will never forego form for function), one friend’s attach of mastitis (ahh…motherhood), and the day ending earlier than we might have liked….it was so long overdue, and so wonderful.
I am already in the process of convincing my husband it should be an annual event.
This past weekend I found myself again in the unusual predicament of having an afternoon away from the home. My friend Jeanine (whom I do not see nearly enough) had her baby shower. Now, if I am being truthful about baby and bridal showers, I have actually always loathed them. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good meal, but spending hours “ooh”ing and “ahh”ing over great presents someone else is receiving is not my selfish cup of tea.
But that has changed too. I now look forward to a couple hours away with other women…talking about our kids (which ones do not want to start school and which one requires a chaperone ..shout out to BC), catching up on news, and not having to cut anyone’s food for them. Jeanine’s shower was lovely, the food was delicious, and the time not having to worry about trips to the potty and vegetable eating was nice.
I guess what it comes down to is spending time with friends. We devote so much time to our children, followed by our husbands and family, that girlfriends often get pushed to the back of the line.
Every mother needs to take care of herself, and her relationships. So, for this Mother's Day...enjoy your day with the family and all that may entail. But if you are so inclined, petition for a girls' night out on Mother's Day Eve....you're probably overdue.
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